Embracing Change

If, like me, you’re a fan of the film, Bridesmaids, we’d have all seen the difficulty that can come with undergoing and accepting change. In the film’s case we see the protagonist, Annie, and her inability to deal with the fact that her childhood best friend is no longer the same as when she was at a former age. But instead of plunging into a giant cookie, or battling your bowel movement while your pride overrules to accept that you’ve a bad case of food poisoning, we would probably find it easier to just try and accept change, grab it by the balls, and embrace it.

Change in my case has so far been the deviation from size 10/12 jeans to size 6/8 to steadily creeping back up to an annoying size somewhere in between the two. Though anorexia saw me rekindling the love of the Zara jeans that got me through my years of being 17 and 18 (that for some unknown reason I’d held on to), I suddenly in a moment of epiphany wondered why on earth I was gushing tears when they felt slightly more snug than normal the other day. Okay, weight gain might have a little to do with it, but really the point here is the fact that I am 22, very almost 23 and certainly not a 6 year former age and it is quite okay that a pair of jeans that are now about 8 years old don’t fit me any more!

A 17 year old may have still yet to realise their ever decreasing speed in metabolism so can still continue to gobble 4 Yorkie bars in one hit or not see a pizza shaped mound appear in their thighs after a cheeky session with Dominoes but they still have enough problems as it is. Especially us females. It’s a given that we all know the adolescent changes that occur for both males and females between their teenage years. Fat tissue will start swelling out of control in your chest area as you cross the border from A to B to C cup, no amount of toothpaste, Sudocream and any other concoction of home remedies will rid you of your red spots and that smell that keeps following you? Yes that is Sure’s way of hinting that you should probably now take up on their buy one, get one free offer on deodorant. But the changes don’t just stop there, because that pepperoni pizza has to go somewhere…

According to Cosmopolitan, “Weight normally continues to increase annually in your 20s, mostly due to increase in body fat compared to teen years.” The years of Yorkies, the months of McDonalds and the weeks of waffles may eventually catch up on you and that is apparently entirely normal.

So the fact that these stupid jeans still had a place in my wardrobe 6 years down the line anyway is still quite beyond me. Those jeans only fit me over the last few years because I was a 22 year old unnaturally squeezed into a 17 year old’s body. Those jeans don’t fit me now because I am becoming a healthier version of the 22 year-old I should be, (attempting to) embrace the changes that every normal 20 something year old faces and not because I am getting fat.

Unhealthy is a two-way street

Google Images did a blindingly accurate job in highlighting my exact thought process towards the ongoing headlines circulating our media towards health and what new phenomenon is now positively detrimental to it. Typing the word ‘unhealthy’ into the search engine, and in 0.34 seconds with a total of 40,500,000 results that it manages to procure – saving us all those valuable milliseconds we’re always worrying about; Google reveals what it means to be unhealthy.

Generally speaking, Google isn’t wrong when it’s the above connotations that are our initial thoughts when we think about what it means to be unhealthy and on the road to bad health. But if one side of the motorway is taking us towards the larger unhealthy size, obesity, surely means that taking a U-turn on that same road, would bring us to the smaller unhealthy size, anorexia? Astonishingly, there was even a picture of what is apparently an unhealthy penis before anything in relation to being underweight and unhealthy was shown!

However, to try and keep things more PG-13, I did in fact opt to disregard that photo from this post, though if you’re curious to the health of one’s genitals, I can confirm Google can help you there. Disappointingly, I gave up scanning through images to find any such picture showing that at the other size spectrum, anorexia, is in fact considered just as unhealthy too. Google just doesn’t seem to agree.

I know we’d no doubt all be just as happy and  protective of our food as the woman above if we were presented with that many cheese burgers, but unhealthy can be so much more than just filling our tummy trunks with all kinds of junk. 13 cheeseburgers in one sitting is possibly not ideal but that doesn’t define them unhealthy. In that particular moment, yes, okay, they probably are non too healthy but in other instances their relationship with food could in fact be very healthy indeed.

Unless you have the utmost certainty and belief in nominating someone healthy or unhealthy, I advise to just be sure not to judge that book by it’s cover, because beneath the psychology surface, a lot more could be revealed. Just because someone is seen to be eating an apple, it might not be correct in calling them healthy because that apple could well be the only piece of food they’ll have that day. On numerous occassions, I’ve been known as healthy because I’ve indulged in a hearty portion of fresh fruit. However, the mental relationship I had with that pineapple and mango at that point was far from healthy because that may have been all that I allowed myself for dinner that evening because I couldn’t bring myself to eat anything more than that.

As a nation we’ve absolutely no chance of ever deciding whether to grant our lifestyle and food habits as healthy or not. You consider yourself the connoisseur of complex carbohydrates or the doctor of diets because you opted to use the reduced fat yogurt, yet have instead now been told of the Mediterranean health benefits and we should all be competing against mice for the best full fat cheese and other dairy products. So perhaps hold off on that fruit because studies will probably reveal sooner or later that it is just as detrimental to us as it was to Adam and Eve.

If you’re happy, balanced and not suffering from the two extremes of the weight scale; carry on because you’re probably doing okay!